Fettman's World

So as I am about to turn 30. I wanted to reflect on my life.  It is weird thinking that I am turning 30 years old, I definitely do not feel 30. So what i’m going to do is reflect on points in my life in certain stages of my life.

0-4.5 years old:

Was born in Paris… Paris, France that is, because nobody in their right mind would actually declare themselves actually from being born Paris, Ontario. Funny thing about that is… till this day when I tell people that I was born in France, they don’t believe me. Maybe it’s because i’m Asian. Who knows. There are a few things that I remember about my early childhood. I remember being able to ride a bicycle without training wheels when i was about just over 3 years old. I remember blowing my first bubbles with bubble gum. I remember puking in a soup and having my sister eat it later on. She denies it till this day… but it’s a true story.  I actually remember owning a commodore 64 and playing the tarzan game. The commodore 64 was actually made the same year i was born. I remember when my dad came up to me and my sister and asked us how we would like to live in Canada. Me and my sister were all for it. Obliviously not really understand the circumstances or anything. However , I am forever glad  that we did move to Canada. As I love this country and I am proud to call myself Canadian.

4.5-11 years old:

So when I first moved into Canada, I remember living with all my cousins and aunts and uncles in one house hold in Gosford (jane & finch area) which was pretty crazy we probably had like 4-5 familes living at one point in that house. My aunts and uncles from vietnam and some of their children. I do have found memories such as when we all shared one bed (like 4 of us) and my uncle thought it would be cool to step all over us. I remember walking to school with my cousins and having them ditch us or try to feed us poison berries.

My first Crush Melinda.. (Blonde blue eye white girl). Collecting Gi Joe, Rambo Sticker books. I remember my uncle buying me the Voltron Action figure. The early years of my childhood I was such a misunderstood kid. I got in trouble in school a lot since I was always a sensitive and emotional person. When someone said something to me that i didn’t like or did something. I’d usually punch them in the face. I did get teased and picked on a lot in my early years of school. Which in turn made me do that to others as well. Oddly enough a lot of the people i picked on I ended up actually Being pretty good friends with them. I had a pretty bad temper and I got suspended numerous times….  My teachers oddly enough, not matter how much of a nuisance i was , they actually quite liked me. I guess they saw that I Wasn’t a bad person and that i just did a lot of stupid things. In grade 5 I moved schools as my parents and principal thought it would be for my best interest, changing the scenery and all.

11-14 years old:

So grade 6 was a huge life changer for me. this is where I actually started to change my act around. I actually owe this to one person. This person even though the first time I had ever met her I was a huge douche cookie. I’m pretty sure I swore at her and called her a bitch for no reason during grade 5 picture day. The next year when I ended up being in the same class as her, I was getting in trouble and had a huge tantrum and I was very upset. As the teacher was getting the principal to escort me out. This girl actually came up to me and put her hand on my shoulder and actually told me that everything was going to be okay. I was completely blown away. This girl that I for no reason was a complete jackass went out of her way to help me out. I can honestly say that was one of the biggest changes in my life. After that event I honestly got better and handling my temper. That also lead me the way on teaching myself on what I looked for in a woman. This person was such an awesome individual. It didn’t matter how popular she was or that everybody knew that I liked her. She always treated me the same.  I ended up liking her 4 like 4 years or so. Never actually wanted anything to happen or anything like that but it really gave me a good aspect on what I looked for in a girl. It really made me not care for superficial people and really care more about how people treat you. I actually managed to end up working with her after high school and actually ended up telling her this story. of course she had no clue on how big of an impact she had in my life but I’m glad that i met her.

14-18 years old:

oh the high school years, it was quite an experience for me. Everything that happened prior to that was such a big change. People I was friends with in middle school moved on to becoming friends with other people. Mostly in their own ethnicity.  I found in high school I always tried so hard to belong in groups places and things and that I always cared what people thought of me. which is probably one of the main reasons why I honestly don’t talk to anyone from my high school days. Not that there’s anything wrong with anyone that i met. it’s just that it was totally a different place and time and at that point of time I don’t believe I really belonged. However, I would still love to see some of these people to see how they are doing. I still have many on my facebook and it’s really neat to see how far some have gone. whether it’s to becoming doctors, lawyers,firefighters or even musicians.

19-29 Years old:

after high school I really didn’t know what i wanted to do or what i wanted to be. Got my first job ever after high school. Working at the movie theater I ended up meeting some of the most amazing friends that i still hold till this day. went to a few different colleges before finally graduating in culinary which lead me to the path of moving to Alberta for a year and living on my own. This stage of my life was really interesting. It’s actually where I really grew as a person. I learned a lot about the gay community (got to march in two pride Parades). Lived on my own and finally stopped giving a shit about what people thought about me and just started to live my life for myself. Met the woman of my life playing World of Warcraft. Got Married. Share a beautiful child with my wife who is the most amazing and precious thing in the world. I get big hugs when I come home!

Turning 30: So i’m finally turning 30.. I’m actually really looking forward to it. On sunday I get to play my very first game of Dungeon and Dragons. Which has been one of my life long dreams! never got a chance as a kid to play it and now 30 years later i get to experience it! very excited. I honestly think the 30 ‘s are going to be the best years of my life but to be honest i’ll probably say that about every upcoming decades. So here’s hoping for an awesome 30s and thanks everyone who has ever interacted with me in the last 30 years. Whether were still friends or not you’ve all helped me become who I am.

jedigrrrl:

This is all kinds of adorable

I can do what daddy does but I can do it better!

On February 28th my little sweet little cat Toaster passed away. He was the sweetest little cat I have ever met. I remember 3 years ago a former co worker of mine had posted on their facebook that they needed to get rid of some kittens that their cat had given birth too. At the time I already had our cats Vader and Audrey, however Elanor and I have always talked about having a cat as a kitten. Being the crazy cat guy that I am I was determined to find these kittens a home.

 At the time Elanor did not want anymore cats as they can be very costly and it was already pretty crowded with two cats. I somehow managed to convince Elanor to come see the kitten at the person’s place, and from this day I still don’t understand how I managed to do that but I did. When we got to the place I remember seeing  the cutest little black kitten I have ever seen in my life. he was probably the size of my hand. He had little paws and tiny little head and was super cute. I remember lying on the floor of the house and the kitten just climbing on top of me. I knew once we saw the kitten that there was no way that Elanor could say no. I even handed Elanor the kitten and told her, How could you not want to give him home? and just like that we took our kitten home. As a kitten he’d sleep on my chest at night, he was no bigger than the size of Elanor’s cell phone.

At the time our group of friends were really into the show Battlestar Galactica and we also had been playing a lot of the Battlestar galatica board game. On the show  there were these Cylons (Machines) who were taking over the world. On the show the humans would call the Cylons  “Toasters” as a derogative term. In the battlestar galatica board game the whole premises of the game was to find out which players were the cylons. Think of playing a game of Clue in a space setting. Basicall when we’d play the game we’d sit there all night accusing each other of being cylons. We’d usually end up just yelling at each other and accusing each other of being a frakkin’ toaster. And what started off as an inside joke actually became our cat’s name.

The name Toaster actually ended up suiting him very well in the end ironically. I remember coming home one day with Elanor, and we went to our bed room only to find Toaster near a bag of bagels that he had opened up. He must have ate a bagel and a half. The dude sure loved bagels! I recall this one other time when Elanor had made me a cream cheese bagel  while I was gaming. During my gaming session I looked down and I was puzzled because I had honestly thought that I had at least half a bagel left but i only had a bottom piece of a half left. Of course I went to look in our bedroom and there he was eating the bagel. Toaster loved food. There wasn’t anything that he pretty much didn’t like to eat. He liked tomatoes, salmon, asparagus. Whatever he could steal he’d eat it.

The funniest thing about Toaster was that he could be such a pest but in the end he was so adorable and cute that you couldn’t stay mad at him for long. He was probably the friendliest cat I have ever met. He didn’t way much at all and if you picked him up he’d just let you and be like this is cool. Anyone that would come over he’d come and say hi and try to sit on them. He loved being affectionate, if you haven’t giving him affection for the day. He’d put himself on you to remind you that he loves you.

One of my favourite things about Toaster was that he was Vader’s best friend. Those two black cats would hang out with each other all day. I’m pretty sure Vader taught toaster how to lie on his back with his paws in the air and just rest like that the entire time. Which lead to some pretty great funny moments. Toaster and Vader would bathe each other all day, play fight and sleep together all the time.

He definitely gave us a few heart attacks a few time as in the new apartment he’d always like to run out in the hallways. One time my dad accidentally let him out and we didn’t realize it till the next day. Apparently a boy had found him in the fire exit stairway and took him home and posted a sign downstairs saying they had found a cat. I remember knocking on the door to go retrieve my cat and and low and behold he was just chillin with the people and finding places to hide in the new apartment. The people who found him thought the was the nicest litte cat. That’s the thing about Toaster he truly was a very social cat.

Elanor and Toaster had spent a lot of time together. There were many times where I’m sure Toaster was being a pest and I’d watch my wife have a tantrum (which is actually pretty funny to watch). However in the end Toaster was such a suck and I hate to admit it but Elanor was definitely his favourite. When Elanor stayed home and was pregnant with Kara. Toaster would cozy up to her all day long. Once the baby had started to kick though he’d have to move up higher cause the baby kicks would scare him. When Kara was born Toaster was very sweet with Kara and they would actually also hang out.

My fondest memory of Toaster is that he’d always hang out with me by perching himself over my computer desk like a little gargoyle, or he’d sit on my lap while I playing on my computer. Toaster was only around 3 years old when he passed away but in that short period of time he had touched so many lives and has gone through so many adventures. He truly was a happy cat and truly made others very happy. I’m going to miss my little guy and he will forever be family.

Imagine trying to convince someone that has never played or watched football that the Super Bowl is about a sport. #superbowl

Watching Paul atreides battle a training robot reminded me of Luke’s training with his Lightsaber. First time watching dune in like 20 years. #scifi #starwars #dune

Rolled a Jedi Knight because our group for friends needed a tank. Played all day with Bradley and man did we have a lot of fun. The musical score is just so amazing. Truly an amazing game. Bradley being the guy that he is going super light side cause he’s such a goodie goodie and my Character is going totally dark side. So our team is like a Ying and Yang team. It makes good for some instance run quest conversations lol.

So i was in Coruscant and the r2 unit. the way he beeps i’m pretty sure it sounds like the Power Rangers beeping sound that the communicators make…. if so that’s a pretty awesome easter egg.

So i got into early access last night, i found out at work and MARKED out. my co workers thought i was odd. I hummed the star wars tune all night last night. I rolled a Trooper Class on the Exalted of The Sanctum Server light side. I did the first Flashpoint(Equivalent to instances). Me and a Jedi two manned the instance. I ended up picking up two Legendary Pieces. One was a chest plate and the other was an auto cannon. I specced into Commando as I plan to heal and do DPS. Having a blast so far!

Cause she’s a skatman!